It is a dire week for me this week, mostly due to my experiments going wrong. I saw this video on Google+ and it made me smile. It shows the synchronisation of Robots dancing to Michael Jackson's Thriller. When one is interrupted it quickly syncs to the other robots by speeding up its movements while the others slow their movement and the music down. Enjoy!
The trouble with being involved in medical research is sometimes the exposure to all of the clinical presentations of certain conditions causes my imagination to go into overdrive.
Last week I developed a weird blister on my left index finger. I was at a conference so was unable to do much except put a plaster over it and hope that it would drain naturally. It didn't. By the time I got back from the conference the GP surgery was closed for the weekend, and so I asked a few Pharmacists their opinions. I was told not to burst it but try a few other things first. None of them worked so I went to a GP.
It turns out that the lump was likely a spider bite that I reacted to. Because my skin tends to have weird reactions this wouldn't normally happen with any UK spider/insect bite. My reaction stopped the venom being absorbed into my body, where it would have been harmless. Instead, I ended up with the blister that kept the venom on that part of my finger and led to the destruction of tissue in that region. Upon having the blister drained and skin removed I now have a fairly sizeable hole where there is no skin, only flesh, down one side of my finger.
I am not normally squeamish. However, I felt nauseous after seeing the wound, mostly because it looks disgusting (although strangely painless) but also due to conference flashbacks. All my previous exposure to clinical presentations showing images of chronic wounds (if you want to Google this you can get an idea of what the wound looks like, mine is NOT chronic) and how in certain people they can take years to heal has creeped me out. I am sure mine will be better in a week or so and the skin will ingress from the edges and fill the gap just fine. As it is, previous attendance to conferences is haunting me! :) Sometimes a little knowledge can be a detriment and I think I need a prescription for mind-bleach.
Good news about Obama's changed stance on gay marriage has rippled across several news outlets. It is positive news and again brings this issue to the public arena. Unfortunately, I can't help also thinking that this was just a political move forced by the Vice-president's expression of support for gay marriage. I also doubt it will have much impact on the presidential election as the general polarisation of opinion on this issue between voters appears to be along party lines anyway. The announcement came just after North Carolina became the most recent of the 31 states banning gay marriage. I am not sure what the government can do anyway, unless the power to ban gay marriage is removed from individual states. I don't know enough about how politics works in the US to comment on how feasible or what repercussions such a move might have. Anyway, there is a vast difference in stating an opinion and making it legislature.
Fundamentally, this is a civil rights issue. The banning of gay marriage is part of continuing discrimination against LGBT individuals. What does it matter what sex partner someone chooses to commit to and spend the rest of their life with? That is no one's business outside of the couple concerned.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-18014102The BBC news article I have linked to gives an overview of the story. The comments below the piece show how religion is often used as a reason for denying others the same rights. People are different for so many reasons. Why can we not just embrace those differences? There is not a limit on how many marriages can be handed out each year!
This video is a few years old now and stemmed from when California passed proposition 8 banning gay marriage. I think it has a lot of important points to make.
I have posted a few times about polyamory and am an advocate of this lifestyle. However, I find that I am often approached by married or partnered men who want a “discrete” relationship on the side, usually with reasons along the lines of a “lack of understanding” or “emotional immaturity” on the part of the wife/girlfriend. When questioned, the men have not or are unwilling to discuss matters with their other halves. It amazes me how often these men describe themselves as “honest” and I often wonder if the emotional immaturity applies to them rather than the women involved.
Poly is perfectly compatible with marriage, with one strong provision; that both partners are aware and have given consent to sexual relationships outside of the marriage. Note also that I have specified sexual relationships, as in ongoing relationships. There is a difference between an open marriage/partnership where either partner can have casual sex with others and poly, where there is a sexual relationship with others.
If one partner is not aware then it is not poly, it is cheating. Plain and simple. As a generalisation, I have found that people genuinely involved in long term poly arrangements value honesty in their partners. If someone is keeping a relationship “discrete” with their primary partner, then how can they be trusted in any other intimate relationship? A particular concern of mine would be sexual health but there would also be emotional ties involved.
So to those looking to cheat, “poly” is not a code word for individuals open to helping the cheater betray their partner. Poly is NOT an excuse to cheat, nor help anyone else to cheat, and I certainly would not want to contribute to the harm of the innocent partner let alone be involved with the cheater. Poly is about sharing your life with more than one individual at the same time. It is a positive relationship arrangement and should benefit all concerned. Please consider that if you think this might be a relationship choice you wish to make.
Skeptical kinkster musing on whatever takes my fancy!