This is an announcement that a bill will be brought forward to the Scottish Parliament, not that the law has changed as yet.
At present, civil partnerships have the same legal rights as religious marriages. I see no reason not to extend the option of religious marriage to same sex couples, and thus I am very much for the proposed legislation. The sooner it occurs the better.
However, there is a sour note rings with regard to this latest proposal. There was a public consultation, with 77,508 responses (according to the link above), 64% of which were against same sex marriage. So what is the right thing for elected officials to do? Make a moral judgement based on principals of equality that goes against the opinion of the populace, or to follow what the electorate want and make a choice that maintains discrimination? Who are the politicians to make that subjective judgement? What if the situation were something different, such as conscription of the populace to fight in wars. Should the opinion of voters be ignored?
We all reply on others to make the best choices for us. Whether it is our parents during formative years or officials in various guises making judgements that affect our well-being on a daily basis. Food standard agencies, health officials, police and law enforcers, even bus or taxi drivers and a myriad of others. We select our politicians to make certain decisions for us as part of a democratic process. We put them in power, but then we must trust that those with the power wield it correctly and leave them to make the necessary decisions. They are human and likely mistakes will be, and often are, made along the way, but it is still their role to make these type of judgements.
As already indicated, I think the right decision is being made. That said, I also think they are walking a fine line. If this was the decision they were going to make anyway, why pursue a consultation in the first place? By doing a consultation they were specifically asking for voter's opinions in order to facilitate making a choice about a controversial topic. I can't help but feel that the consultation was a bad idea that ended up with a negative result and now going against the majority of opinion will not help the cause of homosexual equality.
Perhaps a better, but possibly less headline-grabbing, method (following the consultation) would have been to go down the route of education and winning voters opinions to the cause. Perhaps the Scottish politicians wouldn't then get ahead of those in England and Wales with regard to legislation, but listening to the opinion they have requested would be the better course of action to take.
A comment on my previous post about the book Fifty Shades of Grey and its two sequels pointed me to Jennifer Armintrout's blog. Not only is there a humorous chapter by chapter take on the first book but also how the relationship crosses the line into being abusive. This blog entry is particularly good.
I see "red flags" being spoken about on numerous internet forums, especially the BDSM ones I frequent. Often these red flags are simply different perspectives into what actions they would and would not find acceptable in a partner (i.e. He didn't answer the phone on the single occasion I called it in the evening... it must mean he is married... RED FLAG!!) and rarely are they applicable across the broad spectrum of individuals involved in BDSM. The post I have linked to, however, is different as it focuses not on the actions of the other party, which almost always is open to interpretation, but on how the relationship and partner makes you feel. A good post and worth checking out. Especially if you are one of those who enjoyed the Fifty Shades books and desire that type of relationship.
If a relationship isn't a positive part of your life, if it causes more pain (in the non-consensual/emotional way) than happiness, perhaps it is time to re-evaluate that relationship.
Fifty Shades of Grey and the subsequent Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed have become a hit and the must read book for women over the recent few months. Is it justified? What is causing people to get these books and read them? There are a lot of spoilers in this review so don't read it if you don't want to know any of the minor plot details. You have been warned.
I was asked to read them and give my opinion by a friend and also my brother. I did. While they are entertaining, it is in the same way as watching an episode of Judge Judy, entertainment without any real substance and for the most part not particularly good. The book does get you to turn pages, I will grant that and some of the sex scenes are mildly titillating. But for the most it reminded me of a poorly written Mills and Boon book (I read several of these a week as a teenager and loved them). It also irritated me for several reasons.....
What I think has been exciting about the news of the discovery of a particle that bears a strong resemblance to the hypothetical Higgs Boson (and it has not been proven that it is the Higgs Boson particle yet, just that they have found a particle where the Higgs Boson was predicted to be) is how excited others are and how it has captured the imagination of individuals, whether they are scientists or non-scientists. The impact of the discovery will only be realised in the future and I am sure that this day will go down in history. Brian Cox explains it fairly well in this video clip from the BBC.
Still not sure of what the Higgs Boson is?
(I admit that I have to keep checking my facts as I am not a particle physicist)
PhD Comics have a good video explanation about the complexity of the discovery and the particle itself on this link (Higgs Boson Explained).
Congratulations to everyone involved in the discovery!
Skeptical kinkster musing on whatever takes my fancy!