While genders disparity and the debate about mysogyny continues, there are some concerning trends in the debate on both sides among the extremists. One of these is the perception that women are constantly in fear of being raped or being victimised and that our whole lives revolve around this and the male privalledge that cushions men against it. Except, it is not true. Women are not victims by nature of being female, not all of us live with this constant fear and men are not immune from being victims of rape or violence. There are battles to be fought for recognition in rape cases, especially with regard to the characterisation of individuals who have been raped and the influence of their sexual behaviour has on whether they can consent or not, but gender biases hurt both men and women. The first article highlights a shocking example about the conseqence of a young woman reporting her rape to the auhorities (http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2011/07/12/reception-of-rape-victims-silsbee-tx-edition/). This is a problem and the stigma about rape is NOT gender specific, although there may be different ways in which male and female rape is handled, as highlighted in the second artcle (this was linked to in today's Skepchicks quickies) about male rape in war and regions on conflict. It is a difficult read and a possible trigger.
Some of the non-graphic quotes from the male rape article that struck me follow.
"Part of the activism around women's rights is: 'Let's prove that women are as good as men.' But the other side is you should look at the fact that men can be weak and vulnerable."
"Secretary of State Hillary Clinton recently announced $44m to implement this (The UN Security Council Resolution 1325) resolution. Because of its entirely exclusive focus on female victims, it seems unlikely that any of these new funds will reach the thousands of men and boys who suffer from this kind of abuse. Ignoring male rape not only neglects men, it also harms women by reinforcing a viewpoint that equates 'female' with 'victim', thus hampering our ability to see women as strong and empowered. In the same way, silence about male victims reinforces unhealthy expectations about men and their supposed invulnerability"
"As I leave Uganda, there's a detail of a story that I can't forget. Before receiving help from the RLP, one man went to see his local doctor. He told him he had been raped four times, that he was injured and depressed and his wife had threatened to leave him. The doctor gave him a Panadol."
Skeptical kinkster musing on whatever takes my fancy!