There is so much pervasive pressure in media to look a certain way, and people in general do not help situation when they stare or, worse, make disparaging comments about people who look different. This is highlighted in an article in The Telegraph "If my face upsets you, it's your problem not mine." The article features a woman, Joanna Corbin, with a birthmark on her face and tells of her own difficulties with how people react to her.
I have a scar on my face, through my lower lip. It stems from a nasty dog bite when I was 14. I had a plastic surgeon repair the horseshoe shaped wounds and he was able to match up the line of my lips very well. The scar is very faint now but the whole area is slightly raised and I can see and feel it all the time. Most people don't notice the scar until they see me on a particularly sunny day and then will ask "What is wrong with your face/lip? It looks swollen". It doesn't bother me now. When I was a teenager, however, it did bother me and the scar was a livid red for several years before it settled down. This led to a particularly painful time when I was the but of all jokes about dating ugly girls (you can imagine what it was like to go through this between the ages of 14 and 17). It has left me with paranoia and I am very self-conscious about the scar, having to put on make-up before I leave the house or even allow family members to see me in the morning.
My scar is minor and my issues stem from school years, but I can imagine that it must be challenging for those who are affected by the type of behaviour described in the article on a regular basis. Not everyone will judge, but enough do to have a big impact. We cannot tell anything about an individual from how they look. We do not know if they are intelligent, kind, hard working, brave or anything else. One of the reasons I love alternative lifestyles is that people tend not to be too judgemental about appearance. Something to keep in mind next time we encounter someone who doesn't look like everyone else.
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